
Many of us have experienced feeling embarrassed or surprised by having an "automatic" reaction to something someone in our lives has said or done. Hearing our friends or loved ones say something like, "I couldn't believe it, I knew that was the wrong thing to say (or do) when I was saying (or doing) it, but it just flew right out of my mouth!" We often seem to believe that we simply cannot control some of our reactions to people, places and situations that arise in our daily interactions.
Fortunately, there is a simple process that we can learn that will bring these "unconscious" reactions of ours more to the level of our conscious thought. That process is known as "pausing." Simply pausing for a moment when we are conscious of feeling uncomfortable in any conversation or interaction with those around us, is actually very empowering!

Taking a moment to pause, take a breath and ask our hearts for guidance is a simple discipline that we can practice the next time we find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation. The more we practice this form of empowerment, the more we will remember to do it in all of our daily interactions with those we love and encounter in our world. The more we are able to think and choose how to "respond" rather than "react" to others, the more we will actually take responsibility for our own behavior.

This profound change in our thinking can only help to improve and heal our relationships with those around us. It will make our lives happier, as well. Try practicing "pausing," rather than reacting, as often as you remember to in your day for one week, and see how much better you will feel about yourself and your relationships!
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